Experiencing difficulties in relationships is not only heartbreaking for both parties but it can have a huge and detrimental impact in many areas of our lives. An unhappy or strained relationship can cause problems within the family home, strain friendships, impact on our working life and can also result in mental health issues. If we are able to find resolutions within our loving relationships, everything else in our lives improve. The relationship we have with our partner is one of the most important relationships we have because it affects so many other areas in our lives.
Whether you’re in a long term partnership, have recently began cohabiting or are married, I am able to help you establish a healthy relationship where both partner’s needs are heard and met. During sessions, my aim is to improve communication between partners, resolve conflicts in a healthy manner, explore any issues that may be contributing towards inner tensions (e.g. childhood, finances, adultery, family issues), reduce tension, prevent separation or divorce and establish a more loving relationship where each partner feels safe to express their feelings. When we feel comfortable with communicating our feelings and desires with our partner in a healthy and calm manner, a foundation is formed for a more balanced and peaceful relationship.
Our sessions will give each partner a chance to voice their feelings in a safe environment with the objective that the other person can be more understanding towards the other’s needs. Together we will implement essential strategies to prevent heated arguments, communicate effectively, build a loving and fun relationship where both partners feel wanted and loved.
In the case where one partner is unwilling to seek outside help with the relationship, I am able to offer relationship expertise to individuals. Sessions will focus on the objectives sought which may include winning back a partner’s love, improving intimacy or seeking more commitment. It is very possible with the techniques I will teach, that a seemingly broken relationship can be restored simply by one partner changing their behaviours and responding differently. I have many success stories from seeing just one partner and the relationship being completely turned around. Sometimes it can even be more effective where one partner seeks help with the relationship. Through working with me individually, you will see a change in the way your partner responds to you once you begin to implement strategies you learn via our sessions.
I have worked with couples who have come to me seeking a separation with little hope of reconciliation, only to get married and have more children. Sometimes the easiest option appears to be separation; but where there is still love, a little hard work and lots of understanding can make the way for a new beginning. My sessions will help you reconnect and come together through building a better understanding of one another. If I can prevent any unnecessary break ups, then my purpose is fully served.
When a relationship has irrevocably broken down and mediation is sought, my sessions will focus on establishing harmonious relations whilst navigating through the painful process of separation. Sessions will manage the separation with the objective being that both partners are able to move forward together by forming a non-intimate partnership. Particularly where there are children involved, we shall employ strategies that will successfully navigate your family through a separation in order to maintain healthy family relations for children and any other affected parties. When required, finances can be discussed, a parenting plan can also be drawn up and any other issues pertaining to family matters discussed. In seeking mediation sessions, costly divorces/separations can be avoided but more importantly, any existing animosity can be diminished through implementing effective strategies discussed within our sessions.
Step 1. The first stage of the journey is to identify your goals and realise what is important to you
Step 2. Next we explore your current situation to understand the obstacles that are holding you back.
Step 3. We plan the steps you need to take in order to get to where you want to be – while making sure that you stay on track and celebrate the successes along the way.
Step 4. Finally we identify steps and tactics to make sure that you will remain consistent in order to succeed.
When I came to Fariba, I was at my lowest ebb. My 12 year relationship was at an end with separation plans in place. There was absolutely no way back. We had been to see 3 relationship counsellors who actually made things worse. I wasn’t hopeful of a reconciliation. Having seen Fariba, everything turned around and quite quickly in fact. She didn’t tell me what I necessarily wanted to hear but she told me what I absolutely needed to hear. After following her advice, my partner and I were in such a good place that we got married. This was quite the turnaround from having been settled on a separation.
Not only did we get married but we have a child on the way now also. This is something I could never have dreamed of. Previous counsellors had suggested our relationship really had no hope and the best course of action was separation. Through Fariba, we learned to communicate, understand one another and most importantly, be grateful for what we had. Small trifles we historically argued over are something of the past. Although no relationship is perfect, I have found a new best friend in my husband where I previously saw only a enemy.
Not only has our relationship drastically improved but I have also developed as a person and have learned to become more mentally and emotionally resilient and have a more positive mindset.
Unfortunately I cannot find the words to articulate just how this one incredible lady has changed my life. There is no one else I would choose to guide me through difficult times.
Fariba entered my life at a point when I was at crossroads. Fariba coached me in to rediscovering my own strength and reminding me what I am capable of. Often family and friends tell you everything you want to hear but few are honest enough and committed enough to tell you what will actually benefit you. Even if the advice is not palatable at the time, Fariba's professionalism and commitment to helping you achieve everything you want enables you to grow as a person and realise how much the advice was one, needed and two, accurate. Fariba’s unique ability is making you feel supported and like you are never alone but also seeing your potential both now and in the future before you yourself ever do. 15 years on, I still carry the lessons I have learned from her and am a better person because of it.
I worked Fariba earlier this year, and found her to be incredibly caring, supportive and knowledgeable. At the time, I was suffering from some anxiety, and her positive and thoughtful approach allowed me to begin to approach situations and circumstances differently and to learn to be ok with negative emotions. She gave me the space and freedom to speak and express my concerns, but also gave me concrete methods to help change my thinking for the better. I have recommended her to a number of friends and colleagues who have similarly been delighted with the support she has provided.
Fariba is brilliant. She has the talent for simplifying the complicated. Professional, enthusiastic and involved.